“I am not absentminded. It is the presence of mind that makes me unaware of everything else.”
― G.K. Chesterton
It is almost a norm to live in your head and engage in the activities of the mind while escaping or avoiding emotions, especially ‘Negative Emotions’. Excessive thinking tends to lead nowhere and makes you live in your head rather than living your life. Therefore, getting out of your head and connecting with friends or doing some activities such as exercise can help encourage mindfulness. The mind-body connection is powerful and you can break unhealthy patterns by doing something physical.
Hugo Alberts and Seph Fontane Pennock dig deeper into why human beings tend to avoid negative emotions in their discussion on the importance and meaning of (negative) emotions, awareness, and mindfulness. This led to an interesting description of what happiness is.
Happiness is not what makes life beautiful. What makes life beautiful is overcoming obstacles such as obstacles and negative emotions. It is more effective to create a meaningful life rather than a “happy” life because the negative side of life is inevitable. Strive for growth and developing yourself and having a heart of gratitude.
That is why the Second wave Positive Psychology incorporates both the dark and bright side of life rather than focusing solely on the bright side of life
The Necessity Of Negativity In Life
Negativity in our lives can be a warning that something is going on in your life or body that needs your attention. It is not bad to experience negativity in your life once in a while.
Negativity can also be a form of ‘time out’ or an opportunity to reset your values in life. Sometimes you need that break to reset your priorities too. You can be lost in your head by focusing on some issues and neglecting more important issues in your life.
That brings us to another important mental stage – being depressed. As humans, once in a while we find ourselves depressed (non-clinical depression) and all we want to do is to quickly shake it off and move past it. But that feeling could be a wake-up call stop and reevaluate the things we do because our feelings and emotions are telling us we need to do something right now. Whenever you can, take a moment and asked yourself this question, ‘How are you doing’. We often ask people how they are doing but rarely, if ever, take the time to ask ourselves.
Emotions As A Feedback Mechanism
Humans are one of the most complex beings on earth, and life is no less complex. Recognizing emotions as a feedback mechanism can help you pay attention to your emotions when you are feeling different. It is okay to embrace your emotions and know that it is part of life. For example, when you are angry take time to ask yourself ‘What boundaries have been violated here?” Do not just push the anger away.
A Life Of Solitude
Spending time alone is one of the most difficult things for many of us. It can almost seem impossible to avoid thinking of things we have been pushing from our mind. It is hard to be alone with yourself even though you will spend most of your life by yourself. The urge to do something constantly knocks on the doors of our but there is tremendous value when you learn to enjoy spending time alone.
It leads to the ability to accept yourself. To be okay with who you are “Is a life well lived”. It is amazing when you take the responsibility and look at solitude from a curiosity or gratitude perspective.
A famous writer once said, “So I tell myself my life”. Learn to catch up with yourself and give updates about your life occasionally. It may sound awkward, but who can best tell you your life story but you. It is more empowering than reading or hearing someone else narrate it to you.
The Power of Thoughts
The mind creates stories, words, and symbols constantly, which is why it is important to learn to get out of ‘thinking’ and be present in the moment. Pay attention to what is happening right now in your immediate surroundings. “Becoming and living with yourself as a friend” Neitzche
Connecting With The Present
Learn to stop simply breathing and deliberately take a breath in and out as often as possible. Reserve time for a mindful activity you enjoy doing. Mindfulness comes when you get out of ‘thinking’ mode and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes major decisions in life do not require full-blown analysis. Learn to listen to your intuition because everything in life does not have to be rational (involve rational ways of thinking). For example, when you are buying a house you do not only use rational thinking. Instead you listen to your intuition and ask yourself “Does this house feel like home?” Do you want to come to this house after a long tiring day?
Enjoy your creative nature and get into a creative process as often as possible. Write for the sake of writing or draw for the sake of drawing. Do something simply for the sake of doing it. The most beautiful way to connect with life is a state of non-thinking and allowing creativity to flow through you.
Thank you for reading, I enjoyed listening to the podcast by Hugo Alberts and Seph Fontane Pennock, who give a new meaning to real happiness. Learn to embrace negativity and not run away from the negative emotions when they do visit