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What happens when we start embracing vulnerability and learning acceptance in life?

If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” Brene Brown

Recently I embarked on a journey of self-discovery, acceptance, authenticity, and working toward self-actualization, but I realized that all aspirations mentioned above would not happen unless I understood and embraced the ‘Power Of Vulnerability,” which reminds me of a familiar quote. Though the concepts differ, it carries the same connotation.

Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. Proverbs 28:13

We cannot grow if we choose to stay in familiar places or places of comfort. We may think that is what we like and prefer because we do not know anything else. We may fear or be unwilling to try new things because we fear failure or exposing our weaknesses.

What if people see who I really am? What if they change their behavior towards me after this? Will I still be accepted? Can I still fit in?

Vulnerability

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Like Brene Brown says, most of the time, vulnerability is mistaken for weakness, and feeling vulnerable is mistaken for failure. She defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Staying in our comfort zone because of fear of uncertainty will cause us not to grow. Nothing is guaranteed in life. For example, the act of making new friends or falling in love. Those relationships are not guaranteed, but we tend to trust them. They are risky too because your best friend can be a gossip who cannot shut their mouth and retells everything they hear.

Example of uncertainty in life

During college, there was this girl who was super friendly, an ideal friend for anyone. Broad smiles and an attentive listener, but those good traits came with the inability to shut her mouth. Yet, she was never without friends. All I am trying to point out here is that every good thing may come with a price here and there.

Few months ago, I decided to practice “Vulnerability” in a way I never did before after watching the “Power Of Vulnerability” by Bene Brown. This topic may not seem as shocking to you as it is me, but I struggled a lot with it, and it almost seemed like a taboo to even say.

The one week journey that I embarked on was to become vulnerable to my husband. In other words, my journey to uncovering my inner self. Vulnerability is defined as “The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally” (English Oxford Living Dictionaries). Hearing the word ‘SEX’ or any topic pertaining to the word always makes me feel uncomfortable to this day. Therefore, I decided to use this for my vulnerability challenge.

Thank you for reading this far, feel free to share your struggle with vulnerability. Part 2 coming soon.

Brené Brown – TEDxHouston

2 thoughts on “The Journey To Becoming Vulnerable

  1. Tom's Nature-up-close Photography and Mindfulness Blog – My Blog primarily consists of close-up nature photos (that I've taken locally) combined with original holistic-truth oriented prose and/or poetry involving mindfulness/awareness. I love nature and I love understanding the whole (not merely the parts and the details). I'm a retired teacher of the multiply handicapped. I have a number of interesting hobbies, such as fossil collecting, sport-kite flying, 3D and 2D close-up photography, holography, and pets. Most of all, I am into holistic self-awareness, spontaneous insight, unconventional observation/direct perception, mindfulness, meditation, world peace, non-fragmentation, population control, vegetarianism, and green energy. To follow my unique Blog of "Nature Photos and Mindfulness Sayings" and for RSS feeds to my new posts, please access at: tom8pie.com (On my regular Blog posting pages, for additional information and to follow, simply click on the "tack icon" at the upper right corner... or, on my profile page, you can click on the "Thomas Peace" icon.) Stay mindful, understanding, and caring!...
    Tom's Nature-up-close Photography and Mindfulness Blog says:

    Impressive post! Being true to “what is” without “covering it up,” without distancing it from what one actually is.

    1. Marie Cook – I am a food lover, and cooking is therapeutic for me; it relaxes me and transports me to a quieter universe away from the noisy, busy modern world. I am a Counseling Mental Health & Wellness graduate student, wife, and stepmother. I love connecting with people from different cultural backgrounds through food, fashion, wisdom, and lifestyle in general. To be continued because I am still in the process of discovering who I am as I continue this journey called life. I promise to keep you all posted in the meantime.
      Marie Jeanderine Cook says:

      Thank you so much. It is a daily battle to be your true self and not hide in the crowd

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