What happens when we start embracing vulnerability and learning acceptance in life?
If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” Brene Brown
Recently I embarked on a journey of self-discovery, acceptance, authenticity, and working toward self-actualization, but I realized that all aspirations mentioned above would not happen unless I understood and embraced the ‘Power Of Vulnerability,” which reminds me of a familiar quote. Though the concepts differ, it carries the same connotation.
Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. Proverbs 28:13
We cannot grow if we choose to stay in familiar places or places of comfort. We may think that is what we like and prefer because we do not know anything else. We may fear or be unwilling to try new things because we fear failure or exposing our weaknesses.
What if people see who I really am? What if they change their behavior towards me after this? Will I still be accepted? Can I still fit in?
Like Brene Brown says, most of the time, vulnerability is mistaken for weakness, and feeling vulnerable is mistaken for failure. She defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Staying in our comfort zone because of fear of uncertainty will cause us not to grow. Nothing is guaranteed in life. For example, the act of making new friends or falling in love. Those relationships are not guaranteed, but we tend to trust them. They are risky too because your best friend can be a gossip who cannot shut their mouth and retells everything they hear.
Example of uncertainty in life
During college, there was this girl who was super friendly, an ideal friend for anyone. Broad smiles and an attentive listener, but those good traits came with the inability to shut her mouth. Yet, she was never without friends. All I am trying to point out here is that every good thing may come with a price here and there.
Few months ago, I decided to practice “Vulnerability” in a way I never did before after watching the “Power Of Vulnerability” by Bene Brown. This topic may not seem as shocking to you as it is me, but I struggled a lot with it, and it almost seemed like a taboo to even say.
The one week journey that I embarked on was to become vulnerable to my husband. In other words, my journey to uncovering my inner self. Vulnerability is defined as “The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally” (English Oxford Living Dictionaries). Hearing the word ‘SEX’ or any topic pertaining to the word always makes me feel uncomfortable to this day. Therefore, I decided to use this for my vulnerability challenge.
Thank you for reading this far, feel free to share your struggle with vulnerability. Part 2 coming soon.