Healing Can Begin When We Are Ready To Exposes The Wound
With The New Day Comes New Strengths and New Thoughts. Eleanor Roosevelt
When we are going through trauma it is usually hard to look at things with a different lens, yet when we do so, there comes relief. Sometimes minor relief, yet powerful in empowering victims of trauma. It is equally important to learn to accept your situation and try to change negative thoughts to healthier negative thoughts and finally to positive thoughts. It is a process and not a sprint. For example, in an abusive relationship, confront the individual involved as a first step, ask the abuser to stop the abuse as the second step, and give an ultimatum or end the relationship as the final step (it can also be the first step in some chronic cases).
Trauma has no clear definition, and any definition of trauma is like a guideline to what trauma can be because it can be viewed subjectively. Different individuals can experience something similar and have different feelings about it. “Individual trauma results from an event, series of events, or set of circumstances experienced by an individual as physically or emotionally harmful or life-threatening with lasting adverse effects on the individual’s functioning and mental, physical, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being.” (SAMHSA)
The rationale for talking about trauma and encouraging you as a victim of trauma is to help accept and embrace the pains, and empower you at the end of the day. To not let the events completely cripple you, but rather make you a stronger person. Nobody can fight trauma alone, but you can do your part in initiating the healing process.
Helpful Self-Care Tips When Dealing With Trauma
You can tailor these tips to suit your preference because there is no ‘One Size Fits All.’ We can apply the same concept in different ways, and it benefits us more than if we use exactly the same method for everyone. Same concept but a different method of implementation.
-Seek professional help — Only the brave dare to show their humanness
– Acceptance –
- Accept your situation and know that healing is possible even after your life or brain changes from the trauma
- Do not blame yourself — take responsibility if needed but do not dwell on guilt
- Forgiveness — Forgive yourself. Forgive any person involved. Do not live in bitterness or regret
- Do something fun. Play games.
- Surround yourself with ones you love
- Join group therapy or a support group
- Meditation & Spiritual Practice — Feed your mind with things that are positive and meaningful
You Are Not Alone!